Everyone walking around here on earth finds out sooner or later that without a healthy dose of self-confidence, they will not achieve many of their set goals in life. Some people seem to radiate self-confidence like the sun at its peak, while in others their self-confidence seems to keep fading away like the light of the waning crescent moon.
How nice it would be if we were all suns, but the reality is that everyone is at different stages of brightness. Is this a bad thing? Not necessarily. But if you want to work on increasing your self-confidence, I would like to invite you to read on. If you prefer reading this article in Dutch, click here.
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What is self-confidence?
Self-confidence, in short, is the belief in yourself to be able to face any situation and emerge victorious. Not so much because you went to war to save your own skin, but because you (partially) achieved the results you had envisioned.
The benefits of self-confidence
There are several reasons why having self-confidence or developing it is desirable. It benefits you on several levels:
- The emotional plane: you feel good about yourself and your abilities. This gives you peace of mind, and makes you feel like you can take on the whole world. For this reason, you consciously or unconsciously create space in your heart for a very important person in your life, namely yourself! You learn to love yourself and this results in you accepting yourself exactly as you are. How did you manage to do that? Well, because one fact has seriously dawned on you: as long as you keep breathing, you can keep developing and improving yourself. Of course, this in turn ensures that you can motivate and direct yourself through your inner strength.
- The psychological plane: you can handle a lot mentally and your psychological resilience is very strong. By experiencing personal success stories, you have developed self-esteem for your own intellectual and mental capabilities. You know what you can manage, and you are not afraid to test the limits of your skills in this area. At the end of the day, it only makes you stronger and more resilient. Plus, you become smarter, because you have taken in more knowledge. On top of that, by implementing self-reflection and self-management, you can ensure that your mental skills will only be sharpened more. The more you know how you reacted to certain situations in the past and why, the easier (and more controlled) you will face future events.
- The physical plane: you feel comfortable in your skin, you feel confident and you have a positive self-image. You are happy with how you look as a person (you are not perfect, but healthy and everything works as it should😉 ) and you have no problem exercising regularly to maintain this nice feeling. Why? Simple! You want your body to keep functioning like a well-oiled machine! As you slowly but surely work on making your body become stronger (because that’s what you’re ultimately working on), something wonderful also happens: you start radiating from within!
You exude self-confidence, and your surroundings will definitely notice that. Suddenly, you get compliments from family and friends, and maybe even strangers! Without even realising it, you may also become an inspiration for others to work on themselves. And if you get bothered by people making negative comments, remember that they actually secretly want to be like you! So by all means, continue with your healthy habits, and don’t give up! 😊
Self-confidence in different contexts
It is quite normal that your level of self-confidence does not stay at the same level no matter what you experience in life. Just imagine the following scenarios:
Scenario 1: Test week
Test week is finally over. You have done everything possible to study for your tests as best and consistently as possible. Even for that stupid subject that gives you a stomach ache just thinking about it😖….
The grades start pouring in, and so far you are very happy. Suddenly, you get a notification that the grade of the dreaded subject has been uploaded! Your heart drops with lightning speed and you feel the anxiety trickle down your spine like an icy cold droplet. It is as if your whole body is petrified and your heart is trying to jump out of your chest!
At this point, your self-confidence is way down. What made you think that getting a pass for this subject was ever feasible! Still, you gather all your courage and with a trembling finger, you click on the message that opens without hesitation.
Breathless, you look at the screen. This can’t be true, can it? Doubt and disbelief battle inside you, trying to convince your eyes that they are seeing things. You try to dispel the fantasies of your brain by blinking your eyes quickly a few times.
To your amazement, this tactic doesn’t seem to work and reality dawns on you: you got a pass! A wave of relief surges through you, followed by a tsunami that makes you regain your voice. Full of triumph, you cry out: “Yes! I got a pass for my worst subject!!!”😎
That way, your parents won’t have to nag you about whether you got that grade already too 😉.
Scenario 2: Dream partner
You are at a party with friends. Actually, you didn’t feel like going at all because it was another one of those days where everything seemed to go wrong. You know the drill: you couldn’t catch sleep and kept tossing and turning in bed. Just before you could have completely surrendered to the arms of dreamless oblivion, your alarm clock rang. Great…😒 After this laborious start to your day, you simply couldn’t get going. All you kept craving for the rest of the day was that cosy dreamy embrace waiting for you when you returned home.
So, when one of your friends called you asking if you wanted to come along to this party, you actually preferred shouting at that person that you already had another important appointment. But then again, you had already turned down two previous invitations and didn’t want to be rude. Sighing, you surrender to decency’s scowl and agree. You will tag along. As you are preparing for the party, you cast several wistful glances at your bed. Finally, with an inner groan, you pull the front door shut behind you and make your way to your rendezvous.
Now, the party itself. It wasn’t as bad as you imagined. The music, the people, the atmosphere, the food… they are quite enjoyable. You start to relax and look around you more. Your gaze falls on a pleasing figure across the room. Your focus now goes completely in that direction and you unconsciously start to stand up straight. That person is really good-looking, for sure! Butterflies begin to flutter in your stomach and thoughts of you together as a couple begin to form in your mind. You can almost hear the church bells ringing, until you are abruptly interrupted by the snorting laugh of your inner critic.
Your courage crumbles and reality hits you like a ton of bricks. Of course, that person will never give you a second glance. You have been neglecting your exercise routine lately, not to mention the outfit you put on today! While being full of doubt and befriending regret, you keep looking at someone you would easily like to wake up next to for the rest of your life. One of your friends follows your gaze and, with an encouraging grin, starts urging you to walk over to the other person. You wholeheartedly wished to be invisible while making dismissive remarks. How could you not, with that sneering smile your of inner critic?
Then the whole group of friends is called in. It is not long before they drown out the scornful, sardonic voice inside you. You fill your lungs with air, brush an invisible lint away from your shoulder and are just about to stand up from your seat. Your potential new flame looks in your direction and starts beaming radiantly. Your heart takes flight and tries to escape from your chest and your legs start feeling rubbery. What a beautiful smile! Empowered by this glow, you make a second attempt to get off your spot.
A shadow falls over you and you look up. Someone is walking past you and heading straight for the source of your inner joy. It seems as if this newcomer has just stepped off a film set. Dark clouds slowly gather inside you as a gloomy suspicion of yours is realised. A deep kiss between the two extinguishes the passionate fire that was roaring inside you with a whimpering hiss. 😞
Ah well, it was just too good to be true. Your friends look at you with compassion, and you bow your head in disappointment. Suddenly, someone starts poking you in the side. Annoyed, you look sideways. With a head movement, your attention is directed to a beautifully shaped face with two pools looking at you with interest from another corner of the room. Look at that, maybe this isn’t the worst night of your life after all. Your bed can wait…😎
Scenario 3: Work
It’s Friday afternoon. Your reminder goes off. Oh no! It’s three o’clock! Sweat begins to form brilliant little beads on your forehead. Your breathing goes hurriedly. Your vision becomes hazy. Only two hours left! If you blow this you will definitely be fired on the spot. Especially after your boss’s last outburst two days ago…😬
If only you could bring this person to their senses! Since you came to work here 2 months ago, it seems like you can never do anything right. Always there is something to grumble about your performance. In the beginning, you assumed this was because you were a newcomer. Not anymore, though. Everyone in the department regularly gets scolded for making the smallest mistake.
As a result, many an employee you have found crying on the toilet. So it didn’t take long for you to have second thoughts about your decision to come and work here. Two words always put an end to those thoughts: recurring expenses. Groaning, you then toiled again at the task you had been assigned for the day.
However, the fact that your body is now reacting so very extreme to the presence of your boss in your life is a dark omen. You sleep badly, your eating habits have ceased to exist and you shuffle timidly through life, unsure of your right to be alive. Your social circle has already raised the alarm several times that you are not doing well. But what else should you do? It’s so hard to get another job these days. And with these house prices, you can just forget about finding a cheaper alternative…😞
While blinking your eyes, you try to let the light of life flood back in as brightly as possible. One minute past two. Heavens, you are definitely going to miss this deadline. That mountain of work you still have to get through is way too high and actually meant for two, but your colleague had to rush off due to a family matter. Nothing to be done about it.
Your musings are brutally disturbed by your bladder demanding your attention in a compelling tone. Sighing deeply, you stand up. With difficulty, you drag your body towards the toilet. You are ready for some much-needed rest, otherwise you won’t last long in this job. As your body relaxes on the toilet, you make a decision. Your health is more important than this job. Just look at those many people on TV who continued working too long and are now paying a high price for it.
A bitter battle between two forces ignites inside you. Your survival instinct screams, “What about your deadline, your recurring expenses, your roof over your head!?” The toilet flushes, and with it your previously acquired willpower. Perhaps you should indeed abandon this idea and get back to work. “Good job!”, shouts your survival instinct. “Don’t make too many waves in the water. This is the best way to get through each day.” A controlled quiet voice deep inside you asks, “What about your self-respect? Do you mean so little to yourself that anyone can do whatever they want with you, regardless of the consequences to your own being?”
As if struck by lightning, you remain standing in the middle of the corridor. Indeed! And what about all those sleepless nights, palpitations, bullying, pent-up anger and grief! An idea begins to germinate inside you to get out of this predicament. Before you can change your mind, you walk to your boss’s office. You knock on the door with beating heart and steely determination. A short answer meets you through the closed door: “Open!” You take a deep breath and step inside.
To get ahead of your fear and let your newly regained self-confidence take root in you, you apologise for the intrusion. You explain that you are eager to meet this afternoon’s deadline, but that this will not work without the help of another colleague. You don’t want to do half a job, and you expound on your own idea of finishing everything within two weeks. Not only that, but this process can be automated so that it eases the workload as well as providing a clear structure, so that each employee knows exactly what stage of implementation they are in. Eager for the chance to implement this idea, you hereby request a postponement.
With bated breath, you await your employer’s reply. After what seems like an eternity, you are told, “Not bad! The plan sounds practical and efficient enough. You get two extra weeks. Don’t make me regret it!” Relieved, you confirm that this will not be the case. Innerly cheering, you walk back to your desk, and soon you have worked out the details of your plan. With renewed energy, you attack the assignment.
Two weeks later, everything is finished neatly on time. And not only that: your boss has decided to introduce your method as standard procedure with you as coordinator. Who would have thought! You are on cloud nine. Your burdened heart was now as light as a feather. Now there was only one thing left for you to do: enjoy a good night’s sleep or two… 😊
Scenario 4: Your passion
From the crack of dawn, you have been eagerly awaiting this moment. You can go at it once again! Enjoying this hobby that always does you a world of good. You feel your heart rate drop and intertwine with your breathing into a regular rhythm as you think about it. No stress for a while, because there is no need for that. You know exactly what to do. More importantly, you are good at it! Your body and mind work like a well-oiled machine, and time seems to freeze in this moment of perpetual bliss. For hours, you can lose yourself in this delightful activity. Everything just adds up. You are in the flow.
At times when things are not going so well for a while and you feel your self-esteem and self-confidence dropping, you always find solace again in this activity. Then you feel grounded again. Rooted. Strong. Your inner battery is recharged, and you can get back at it. That emotional swamp with its fearsome claws of fog, quicksand, and howling winds during pitch-dark nights cannot hold you in its grip. The more often you surrender to this passion, the smaller the territory of this loathsome monster becomes. One day you hope to defeat it completely, but you remain realistic: you are human, and therefore not perfect. After all, light always casts shadows.
Causes and consequences of losing self-confidence
The easiest way to comment on this is to refer back to the scenarios above.
Scenario 1: Test week
A few causes for losing your self-confidence are encountered in this scenario. Throughout your life, there is always someone accompanying you wherever you go. That person comments on everything you do and everything that happens around you. Do you know what the worst part is? If you are not careful, this person keeps on talking. Non-stop. The. Whole. Entire. Time. Any idea who this jammer is?
It’s you yourself. Huh? Oh yes, you! Have you ever noticed how you talk to yourself in your head? Pay attention to it. And, while you’re making that observation, count how many times you talk positively about yourself and the situation. How many times do you let yourself be negative about a situation?
Negative self-talk and having a negative perspective on the world around you make it difficult to expect a positive outcome. Even when you have tried your hardest to cram for a test of a subject that just doesn’t appeal to you that much. Plus, to get a good grade you also need self-management, self-motivation and self-direction. Those don’t come easily to you, but it’s no use to immediately push those skills you’re lacking at present aside, start moaning, and pretend like the world is ending… We’re not going to do that, okay? 😊
Scenario 2: Dream partner
Other causes for losing or weakening your self-confidence are encountered in the second scenario. First, you encounter having self-pity because of having had little sleep. Then, you want to catch up with that as soon as possible, thus exhibiting self-love. This, unfortunately, gets a hard time from society’s wrecking ball: the urge to conform to the norm. Saying “no” too many times is seen as selfish, so in your opinion there’s nothing else to do but go to that party anyway.
There you actually feel pretty good on reflection. Until you spot that cute person across the room. Your self-confidence and self-image are thrown into the a limelight at that moment, and that makes it quite tough for you to just walk up to that other person and strike up a conversation.
Unfortunately, your self-confidence takes a major blow when you discover that your partner-in-waiting is sadly already taken. All your built-up self-esteem is instantly flown out the window. However, in its place, another has risen from its ashes: your self-confidence! Tell me, who doesn’t like being admired by another person? 😉
Scenario 3: Work
If there is one thing that is hard to regulate, it is self-motivation. You know you need a job and have recurring expenses to pay, but that doesn’t take away from the fact that it’s very annoying to work somewhere where you have to walk on eggshells. In the long run, they may not break, but you will. You are attacking your own self-assurance, self-image, and self-esteem.
Every time you make a decision that goes against your core values, you take a step away from your own self. That piece that represents your real, authentic “I”. That is asking for the loss of inner peace and strength, and that then results in physical signals that things are not right with the balance in your life.
One way to restore that imbalance is to devour a good dose of self-direction, self-management and self-reflection. In other words, you call yourself to attention, ask yourself how you got where you are now, and how you can make sure you never end up there again. That leaves you with only two things left to do: take a deep breath and go at it again in good spirits.
Scenario 4: Your passion
This scenario contains many elements you encounter when you are feeling good about yourself. You are in the zone and feel relaxed. Why? Because you know you are good at your passion. All the elements flow together seamlessly, which creates a positive self-image. You know you are competent and that in turn creates self-acceptance.
A very likely consequence of your good performance and focus, is that you imperceptibly (or not, depending on how fanatical you are 😉 ) get better at the activities you perform. Self-development in these areas happens almost unnoticed, and an added benefit is that you can use these acquired skills again during other situations. This way, you keep developing yourself and develop your self-confidence and self-assurance naturally.
Seven tools to boost your self-confidence
Below are seven tools to build and strengthen your self-confidence. They come from the book Self-Confidence: in 30 minutes you know more! by Hans-Georg Willman. The idea is to use these tools regularly so that they become part of your personal repertoire that you consciously or unconsciously use.
Please note that the information is translated from a Dutch edition of the book, so some liberty is used in word use when it comes to writing this part of the article
Instrument 1: The torch
The first of the seven instruments is the torch. You use a torch when you want to get a better look at something in the dark, resulting in you putting a spotlight on that object. When you feel insecure, you tend to magnify all your flaws and imperfections. The effect? You feel even worse about yourself.
Hence, this problem can be tackled differently. Willman suggests that “you learn to look mildly at yourself”. (p. 66) You imagine a concrete situation where you normally feel rather awkward, such as wanting to express an idea you have during a meeting. For some reason, your tongue freezes against the roof of your mouth as your thoughts race by like an express train. That doesn’t really help you to be productive in that moment, and your inner critic loves to give you a hard time if you missed your moment to speak up and voice that idea.
So Willman gives you a second tip: “look at this scenario without judgment”. (p. 67) You are just a spectator. What happens in such a situation? How do you feel about it? Through your upbringing and interactions, you have learned to look at yourself in a certain way, whether positive or negative. By just naming how you feel in such a difficult situation, you become aware of what is really going on in your head and body.
This momentary detachment helps you change your self-image because you make your brain and body aware of the dichotomy of perspectives: that of the present and that of the past. The two remain the same only if you keep replaying the rehearsed programme. However, you are also able to direct that spotlight of the torch differently in such a way that you start seeing possibilities of how you can reach your goals.
For example, are you having trouble saying something at the right time? Perhaps you could enlist the help of your manager or a fellow colleague? They can give you a short signal when you can say something. Is that too difficult or not possible? Perhaps tips from friends, family etc can help. 😊
Tool 2: The dictaphone
Throughout the day, we have conversations with ourselves in our heads. This can involve quite a few harsh words if we have not done something quite according to plan. These inner dialogues can make for a rather miserable day if you are not careful! Willman calls these conversations “friendly self-dialogues”. (p. 69)
To boost and build your self-confidence, it is very important to let these conversations be positive and constructive. To avoid this trap of speaking too negatively to yourself, Willman advises, “don’t put too much pressure on yourself by wanting to change the entire ‘conversation culture’ with yourself right away.” (p. 69) Start small, make it a habit, and reap the benefits. In other words, compliment yourself when something has gone well in a specific situation. Be specific. “Make sure you phrase sentences addressed to yourself in a positive way.” (p. 70) And let the effect sink in for a while. After all, change takes time, doesn’t it? 😉
Tool 3: The sieve
Throughout a normal day, all kinds of interactions take place between you and other people. Family, friends, acquaintances, strangers. Put in black and white: the communication has two outcomes: either you are left with a nice, warm feeling, or you feel dull.
For this reason, Willman advises you to “have some kind of sieve for information that benefits your self-esteem. Use this to filter out the utterances that do you good from the deluge that is poured out on you every day. This is not about viewing everything positively or overestimating yourself. Because of course you have strengths and weaknesses and of course the world consists of both good and bad things. The key is to notice both, but to give extra emphasis to your own strengths and what is positive in the world.” (p. 71)
So, selectively filter what helps you best to get through the day in a realistic way with number three of the seven tools. Should you come across someone who is in a bad mood and rather snappy towards you, it does not mean that your self-esteem and self-confidence must immediately plummet to rock bottom. That person is not enjoying life at the moment, but that does not equal the fact that the whole world is coming to an end. Walk away from this thundercloud, check your self-dialogue, and look for sunnier places 😊.
Instrument 4: The measuring device
Nowadays, we have all kinds of devices to measure, observe and even imitate the world around us. Before all these devices were invented, we as humans had and ingenious way of signalling how we and our surroundings are doing. Our body is a compass that tells us what is going well and what we can get on with, but also when we need to watch out for whatever reason.
Willman agrees: “Our body is the most important ‘instrument of experience’ we have. Every human being has a lifelong ability to check whether they are doing well or not: whether they are tired or rested, hungry or satiated, healthy or sick. In the course of life, however, we learn either to pay attention to these signals from the body or to take them seriously. The consequences: negative effects on our physical condition. And these, in turn, have their direct impact on our self-confidence.” (p. 74)
Particularly when you approach adulthood and, in particular, when you start working, you soon notice that it is “accepted” to go beyond your own limits to complete your work successfully. Where else do all those people who suffer from burnout come from? It is considered normal when you get into such a state. Why, really? 😞
Surely our bodies – as life organisms – were given this built-in signalling system from birth for a reason? We didn’t get to this point in our evolution by pure chance. Do not neglect this valuable fourth instrument, but cherish it and take good care of it. A healthy mind in a healthy body is a perfect way to maintain your self-confidence.
Tool 5: The microphone
A microphone helps you make yourself understood to others. It amplifies your voice so you don’t have to shout to reach a larger audience. Our body acts not only as a signalling system to ourselves, but also to others. Your posture, facial expression, way of walking, standing, sitting…. All tell your environment how you are (or are not) doing. Hence, number five of the seven tools is: the microphone!
Willman explains: “To others, the first and quickest thing we notice is our physical appearance – whether we want to or not. Even before we have said a word, the other person forms a picture of us and reacts based on that. Communication researchers worldwide have demonstrated this in countless studies. Our appearance determines the first impression the person opposite us will form of us. How our physical state appears to others, the other person’s reaction, and the effect of this reaction on us cannot be underestimated.” (76-77)
Do remember that you can also pretend to feel good while your world is collapsing behind the scenes. Why? Because the way you present yourself is noticed by two observers: your environment, and yourself. You could have woken up with a bad mood and be feeling positively grumpy, or you could consciously choose to make the most of it that day. Your inner experience then changes along with your decision to see the day from its brighter side. The result? You feel better, radiate this outwardly, and those around you don’t even realise that a few hours ago you just wanted to pull the covers over your head and stay there moping 😉 .
Willman also gives a few other tips to boost your confidence in particular, namely:
“Change something about your appearance so that you instantly appear different to those around you. Take care of your hairstyle, house, nails and teeth.
Change something about your posture to have a positive influence on yourself and others. Pay attention to an upright posture, dynamic movements, deep breathing and a friendly smile.
Engage in sports to increase your physical health. This will increase your muscle tone and the tension in your body.” (p. 78-79)
Try out some of these tips. Start small, so you can get used to the changes happening both inside yourself (a positive self-image) and outside yourself (people feeling attracted to you). 😊
Tool 6: The earplugs
It’s not too hard to guess what earplugs are for! 😊 Right! To block out outside noises so you don’t have to deal with them. These earplugs help you stay focused on the goals you have set for yourself, and not to stray off course and take on other tasks that leave you completely exhausted. That doesn’t help your self-confidence at all, does it?
Willman points out that these earplugs are tools “you can use to protect your ears when the voices of those who always have objections get too loud. Cutting yourself off from the ifs and buts of people around you is very effective for boosting your self-confidence. Because especially in situations where you feel insecure about a matter, you are easily affected. Since it is not always easy to avoid the people who make you feel insecure with their misgivings, you should always have your invisible earbuds with you and learn to consciously ignore their remarks. When others doubt your skills, it makes you insecure and therefore you yourself start doubting your skills.” (p. 80)
He adds that “to rebalance your self-confidence after one negative experience, you need three positive experiences. This applies equally to people who don’t trust you with something. Don’t put your self-confidence at risk by dealing with people who want to take it away from you.” (p.80) Well, this sixth of the seven tools is perfect for that!
You heard the man 😉
Tool 7: The ‘self-confidence inventory list’
During difficult or exciting moments in your life, it is easy to lose heart and quickly run the other way. It is precisely at such moments that it is good to exercise your self-confidence muscles. Willman encourages you to “arm yourself mentally. In such cases, compile the self-confidence inventory list, noting things you like about yourself and your life. Answer the following nine ‘feel-good’ questions:
What do I like about myself right now?
What am I very proud of?
What do I like about my life circumstances?
What am I grateful for?
What difficult situation did I get through well?
When do I feel particularly good about myself?
When have I been particularly brave?
What do I really enjoy doing?
Which people think I can do something well?” (p. 81)
Be honest when answering these questions, even if it hurts. Remember that your own progress is stunted by you pampering yourself too much. Be gentle, but also be authentic and candid with yourself. If you need to cry, cry. If you need to laugh, laugh. The nice thing about having privacy is that you can grow behind closed doors. No one even has to get wind of it. It is none of their business, after all 😉 . Growth happens in silence, doesn’t it? And with these seven tools, it should be totally fine! 👌
Inspiring people who regained their self-confidence
Maybe you’ve noticed, but perhaps you haven’t. Depends on how well you paid attention during your history lessons 😉. Most people who have made a big impact on the world did not achieve this overnight. They were not one-hit wonders, otherwise we would have forgotten them long ago. Unfortunately, there are countless people who did fall into oblivion, but that doesn’t make their impact any less.
You come across them in all sorts of fields, such as medicine (Alexander Fleming), the humanitarian field (Princess Diana and Mother Teresa), the political field (Eleanor Roosevelt, Winston Churchill, Martin Luther King, Indira Ghandi, Rosa Parks), the musical field (Ludwig van Beethoven and Joseph Bologne Chevalier de Saint-George), the religious field (Jesus Christ, the prophet Mohammed), the philosophical field (Socrates, Plato), the media field (Oprah Winfrey and Samuel L. Jackson) and so on.
There are so many people who have left a memorable legacy. Listing them all would fill hefty piles of books. One way to boost your own self-confidence is to read their stories. You can learn so much from their success stories as well as their mistakes. The latter will help you save time because you can now avoid them. Not only that: you can also identify with these people. You find out that they actually don’t differ that much from you, because they also had to deal with uncertainty, pain, sadness, hopelessness and despair.
Yet they found a way out of such deep valleys. Let their stories inspire you, and choose to step into their shoes for a while instead of mindlessly scrolling through reels and other distractions. Use your time to (learn to) feel good about yourself, and focus your attention on what you’d like to see grow: your self-confidence. Because what these people have done, you can do too. Not on a large scale, but you will be surprised at the number of people you inspire around you by overcoming your own inner (or outer) struggles. 😊
Become your own source of inspiration!
It is very easy to try to imitate someone you admire and who inspires you in the hope of achieving the same results as them. However, remember that you can also be an inspiration to someone else.
Based on what you have experienced, your life story is also worth using for self-improvement. From your childhood, there have been dreams and goals dormant deep within you that were always, upon awakening, either welcomed by the sunbeams of your self-confidence, or chased under the covers by your fears.
Now that you know better how to curb these fears, I would like to invite you to turn that morning for promises into a sunlit day. Yes, you will encounter episodes of shadow, wind and rain in your walk of life.
But tell me: how else do you learn to grow and become stronger to stand tall like a deeply rooted oak in life? 😉 Give it a try. You might just like it too!
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